Aubyn de Lisle Counselling & Psychotherapy
in Market Harborough and Bayswater

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Counselling, psychotherapy and supervision in Market Harborough and near Kensington, Central London.

I am a psychotherapist and counsellor with a private practice in Market Harborough, Leicestershire, and Bayswater in central London. I am a senior therapist at the 'Mindtalk' group in Market Harborough, and also provide professional group or individual supervision to other therapists. I work with sensitivity and respect together with you, to offer help in the face of particular problems or the most prolonged and intense difficulties.

For example, I work with the following issues:

Stress and anxiety
Problems with confidence, self-esteem
Dealing with loss
Family and parenting difficulties
Problems at work
Eating disorders, self harm
Trauma, Post Traumatic Stress
Unresolved issues from the past, abuse
Dreams and nightmares

I provide caring and sensitive counselling and psychotherapy for a wide range of problems and blocks and use psychotherapy for growth and life's enhancement. My approach is transpersonal and integrative, including the use of EMDR when appropriate - see the FAQ page for an explanation. You can see a video of me introducing myself on YouTube.

"I know from experience that this really can work. You don't have to settle for just surviving."

I offer

  • Private short term counselling in Market Harborough, Leicestershire and Bayswater in Central London

  • Longer term psychotherapy

  • EMDR

  • Professional supervision for groups and individual therapists

    If you live or work in the Central London areas of Bayswater, Kensington or near Market Harborough in Leicestershire and are interested in counselling or psychotherapy, supervision or EMDR, to discuss how I might be able to help you please contact me and I will be happy to arrange an appointment for you.

    Clients have described me as a counsellor having: “extraordinary clarity of insight”, “very grounded”, “real integrity”, “a refuge”, “helps people progress”, “reassuring”, “inspiring”, “exceptional wisdom”, “safe”, “gentle humour”, “adds an extra dimension of spirituality”

    My approach is guided by you, and depends on trust in the relationship. Sometimes therapy looks like 'just talking' - although a great deal is going on in that process, with the client doing most of the talking as they explore their thoughts and feelings about the issues they bring.

    As counsellor in central London my rooms are conveniently located 5 minutes walk from the tube station at Bayswater and a stone's throw from Kensington Gardens, Hyde Park in a characterful Edwardian building that used to house the offices of Spike Milligan. In Market Harborough my psychotherapy practice is located in discreet cosy rooms with easy parking right in the town center.

    Below I outline two other aspects of the way I sometimes work.

  • Working through body awareness

    Increasingly, I have become convinced that an effective, gentle and profound way to access real and permanent change is through working with the way feelings and traumatic reactions become trapped in the body. Many of us go through life in the mistaken belief that the key to control how we feel is by the power of our rational mind. However our mind-body link is much more complex than this. By gently guiding the client to bring sensations to awareness as they are sharing their thoughts and feelings, and working with them positively it is possible to create release from trauma which may have unconsciously been trapped for years. How this looks is like the client simply sitting in their chair, concentrating on the sensations in their body, and sharing with, being watched and guided by the therapist. The release of previously trapped feeling is experienced as a sense of gentle expansion, of awareness of the wider room and the world outside in central London or Market Harborough, and a shift to lightness of mood, pleasant humour and a sense of connection both inside the self, and to the therapist and others. There is a wealth of neurological research - polyvagal theory is one angle, Somatic Experiencing another - to explain and support why and how this works.

    Working with dreams and images

    Have a look at my Articles and Workshops page to read about the value of working with dreams. Their powerful images, feelings, and their freedom from the 'sense' imposed by your consious self offer a way to connect with yourself - that 'aha! awareness - that we simply can't gain by ourselves or with the aid of books. The purpose is not to impose a generalised meaning, but instead to find the meaning that is unique to the individual, through exploring by way of the dreamer's own associations. Often the deep meaning is accessed by making contact with with the essence of feeling in the dream. When a deeper level of connection with self is made, change happens.

    I regularly run a series of experiential workshops for counsellors and therapists in Market Harborough and Little Venice, Central London, on Working with Dreams.

    Endorsements: "Brilliant day, enjoyed it, left feeling uplifted, not overwhelmed. Pace of day was just right." "Really enjoyed the day and powerful learning", "Stimulating and valuable content, practical and helpful in my work", "Very useful content. Great to put into practise.

    Do enquire if you would like to know more. For counsellors and psychotherapists and those in training.

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    This month's blog: How Counselling or Psychotherapy can Help

    Deciding to try counselling or psychotherapy is a huge step if you have never tried it before. But there may come a time when for all kinds of reasons you know you have reached your limit. The reason might be anything – for example generalised anxiety or a profound sense of boredom or anger; relationship, family or work problems; depression, unresolved issues from the past; a puzzling surge of nightmares; phobias; or trauma reactions that won’t fade away. It feels like you have reached a closed door. Your way forward is blocked, and despite your tried and tested ways of managing life and its pressures, you reluctantly accept that perhaps talking about it with someone unconnected with you might be worth a try.

    Most of us keep some intimacy in reserve even from those we are closest to. But even those of us who depend on our friends may eventually find we can't go to them. No matter what their good intentions is generally hard for friends not to become drawn into rescuing, or taking sides, or wanting to impose their own experience onto you, for example with the comment "I know exactly how you feel...". Somehow that comment can have the effect of making you feel even more alone and not listened to. Instead, the friend gets stuck into reminiscing about themselves, or finds it hard to accept the pain of your feelings and rushes into a 'fix it' or ‘know it all’ attitude, while you may find yourself denying or putting your own feelings on hold and instead soothing or reassuring the person who is supposed to be supporting you.

    Some people say that it's the most amazing and positive experience, being face to face in the therapy room with someone who really listens to you. As an infant, if we're lucky we experience this with a good-enough parent, though sadly many of us do not. Then as we grow up, we transfer our need to be seen and understood onto a partner/lover. Yet, of course, our partners have their own needs. So to experience this total receptive focus on yourself, and complete acceptance in adulthood, is an extraordinary and wonderfully empowering process.

    So what is this process, when you strip all the jargon away? There are so many different types of approach or 'modalities', CBT, psychodynamic, integrative, transpersonal, gestalt, existential, person-centred - the list goes on. According to most of the research, at its core the effectiveness of counselling and psychotherapy lies in the relationship between client and therapist. The relationship becomes the framework within which you can explore your problems, and yourself. If you want to, you can brave your fears and check your sense of what is true. The counsellor will use their skills and personal response to help you to explore, and perhaps offer strategies for coping.

    How you experience the process will vary according to the individual. This is one place where you can share whatever is troubling you and know that you will be fully and respectfully supported in exploring it in complete confidentiality. And your therapist will understand what it is like to be in your chair, because as part of their training they will have had an extended period of having therapy/counselling for themselves.

    Hopefully you will feel you are with a therapist who is experienced and sensitive to you and will reassure, acknowledge and defuse any tension. You have already made the biggest leap forward by acknowledging your difficulty and risking this encounter. You have discovered the most remarkable resource: the unconditional, genuine concern and collaboration of another person in trying to understand you and your world.

    See my Articles and Workshops page to read more of my articles.

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    My counselling and psychotherapy, supervision and EMDR are based in 9 Orme Court, Central London W2 near Kensington and in Market Harborough in Leicestershire within easy reach of Leicester, Northampton, Peterborough, Kettering, Corby, Uppingham, Melton Mowbray, Oakham and Rutland.

    BACP registered counsellor and psychotherapist – UKCP accredited

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