Aubyn de Lisle Counselling & Psychotherapy
in Market Harborough, Leicestershire

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Counselling, psychotherapy and supervision in Market Harborough, Leicestershire.

I am a psychotherapist and counsellor with a private practice in Market Harborough, Leicestershire. I am a senior therapist at the 'Mindtalk' group in Market Harborough, and also provide professional group or individual supervision to other therapists. I work with sensitivity and respect together with you, to offer help in the face of particular problems or the most prolonged and intense difficulties.

For example, I work with the following issues:

Stress and anxiety
Problems with confidence, self-esteem
Dealing with loss
Family and parenting difficulties
Problems at work
Eating disorders, self harm
Trauma, Post Traumatic Stress
Unresolved issues from the past, abuse
Dreams and nightmares

I provide caring and sensitive counselling and psychotherapy for a wide range of problems and blocks and use psychotherapy for growth and life's enhancement. My approach is transpersonal and integrative, including the use of EMDR when appropriate - see the FAQ page for an explanation. You can see a video of me introducing myself on YouTube.

"I know from experience that this really can work. You don't have to settle for just surviving."

I offer

  • Private short term counselling in Market Harborough, Leicestershire.

  • Longer term psychotherapy

  • EMDR

  • Professional supervision for groups and individual therapists

    If you live or work in Leicester, Northampton or near Market Harborough in Leicestershire and are interested in counselling or psychotherapy, supervision or EMDR, to discuss how I might be able to help you please contact me and I will be happy to arrange an appointment for you.

    Clients have described me as a counsellor having: “extraordinary clarity of insight”, “very grounded”, “real integrity”, “a refuge”, “helps people progress”, “reassuring”, “inspiring”, “exceptional wisdom”, “safe”, “gentle humour”, “adds an extra dimension of spirituality”

    My approach is guided by you, and depends on trust in the relationship. Sometimes therapy looks like 'just talking' - although a great deal is going on in that process, with the client doing most of the talking as they explore their thoughts and feelings about the issues they bring.

    As counsellor and psychotherapist in Market Harborough between Leicester and Northampton my practice is located in discreet cosy rooms with easy parking right in the town center.

    Below I outline two other aspects of the way I sometimes work.

  • Working through body awareness

    Increasingly, I have become convinced that an effective, gentle and profound way to access real and permanent change is through working with the way feelings and traumatic reactions become trapped in the body. Many of us go through life in the mistaken belief that the key to control how we feel is by the power of our rational mind. However our mind-body link is much more complex than this. By gently guiding the client to bring sensations to awareness as they are sharing their thoughts and feelings, and working with them positively it is possible to create release from trauma which may have unconsciously been trapped for years. How this looks is like the client simply sitting in their chair, concentrating on the sensations in their body, and sharing with, being watched and guided by the therapist. The release of previously trapped feeling is experienced as a sense of gentle expansion, of awareness of the wider room and the world outside in Market Harborough, and a shift to lightness of mood, pleasant humour and a sense of connection both inside the self, and to the therapist and others. There is a wealth of neurological research - polyvagal theory is one angle, Somatic Experiencing another - to explain and support why and how this works.

    Working with dreams and images

    Have a look at my Articles and Workshops page to read about the value of working with dreams. Their powerful images, feelings, and their freedom from the 'sense' imposed by your consious self offer a way to connect with yourself - that 'aha! awareness - that we simply can't gain by ourselves or with the aid of books. The purpose is not to impose a generalised meaning, but instead to find the meaning that is unique to the individual, through exploring by way of the dreamer's own associations. Often the deep meaning is accessed by making contact with with the essence of feeling in the dream. When a deeper level of connection with self is made, change happens.

    I regularly run a series of experiential workshops for counsellors and therapists in Market Harborough and Little Venice, Central London, on Working with Dreams.

    Endorsements: "Brilliant day, enjoyed it, left feeling uplifted, not overwhelmed. Pace of day was just right." "Really enjoyed the day and powerful learning", "Stimulating and valuable content, practical and helpful in my work", "Very useful content. Great to put into practise.

    Do enquire if you would like to know more. For counsellors and psychotherapists and those in training.

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    This Month's Blog: Three Basic Aspects of Counselling and Psychotherapy

    The feeling of being properly heard and understood is deeply transforming. In our lives when helped by partners, friends or work colleagues we are often advised to change ourselves, to correct our direction. The effect of this is often to make us feel criticised, diminished or annoyed and resistant. In counselling and psychotherapy the approach is different. The therapist aims to treat everything we bring with respect and generosity, accepting our inner world exactly as it is without trying to impose a particular agenda.
    Three key aspects to the process of counselling and psychotherapy facilitate this:

    1. An acceptance of the unique truths that we sense intuitively, through our gut and our senses and our imagination rather than rationally. The therapist helps by entering our world to explore it, helping us to work with images, metaphors, feelings and what we sense in a way that completely works for us and doesn’t need to work that way for anyone else. The therapist validates, acknowledges, recognises it’s truth to us as unique individuals.

    2. A therapist listens differently. It’s all about you, whereas when sharing such explorations with a friend it often ends up being about them. A friend may well feel that by sharing their fellow experience you will feel less alone. That may be true, but it’s more likely that you will feel irritated that they are imposing their view of the world onto your unique situation and don’t really understand, and their response has the effect of closing you down. Therapists’ questions tend to be non directive, openly enquiring and without an ‘edge’. They do not interject ‘I know exactly how that feels because when it happened to me....’ With a counsellor or psychotherapist we are not being told to see or make sense of things in a particular way, and they do not impose their interpretation.

    3. One of the most valuable experiences in counselling and therapy, is when we hear our own words reflected back at us. Sometimes they may be paraphrased or rephrased, but often they will be exact. This simple thing has a very powerful effect, on making us feel affirmed, respected and ‘allowed’. It might seem a basic thing to do, however this simple thing requires considerable focus and close attention from the therapist.
    We are capable of making extraordinarily deep and powerful changes to apparently intractable problems when we are fully heard, validated and supported in this way. It’s a wonderful thing that this simple human service of contact through receptivity is available to us all in counselling and psychotherapy.

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    My counselling and psychotherapy, supervision and EMDR are based in Market Harborough in Leicestershire within easy reach of Leicester, Northampton, Peterborough, Kettering, Corby, Uppingham, Melton Mowbray, Oakham and Rutland.

    BACP registered counsellor and psychotherapist – UKCP accredited

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