Counselling, psychotherapy and supervision in Market Harborough, Fulham and Bayswater.
I am a psychotherapist and counsellor with a private practice in Market Harborough, Leicestershire; also in Fulham, and Bayswater in central London. I am a senior therapist at the 'Mindtalk' group in Market Harborough, and also provide professional group or individual supervision to other therapists. I work with sensitivity and respect together with you, to offer help in the face of particular problems or the most prolonged and intense difficulties.
For example, I work with the following issues:
Stress and anxiety
Problems with confidence, self-esteem
Dealing with loss
Family and parenting difficulties
Problems at work
Eating disorders, self harm
Trauma, Post Traumatic Stress
Unresolved issues from the past, abuse
Dreams and nightmares
I provide caring and sensitive counselling and psychotherapy for a wide range of problems and blocks and use psychotherapy for growth and life's enhancement. My approach is transpersonal and integrative, including the use of EMDR when appropriate - see the FAQ page for an explanation. You can see a video of me introducing myself on YouTube.
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If you live or work in the Central London areas of Bayswater or Fulham, or near Market Harborough in Leicestershire and are interested in counselling or psychotherapy, supervision or EMDR, to discuss how I might be able to help you please contact me and I will be happy to arrange an appointment for you.
My approach is guided by you, and depends on trust in the relationship. Sometimes therapy looks like 'just talking' - although a great deal is going on in that process, with the client doing most of the talking as they explore their thoughts and feelings about the issues they bring.
As counsellor in central London my rooms are conveniently located 5 minutes walk from the tube station at Bayswater and a stone's throw from Kensington Gardens, Hyde Park in a characterful Edwardian building that used to house the offices of Spike Milligan. I also practice at Thrive@SW6, in Fulham Broadway. In Market Harborough my psychotherapy practice is located in discreet cosy rooms with easy parking right in the town center.
Below I outline two other aspects of the way I sometimes work.
Working through body awareness
Increasingly, I have become convinced that an effective, gentle and profound way to access real and permanent change is through working with the way feelings and traumatic reactions become trapped in the body. Many of us go through life in the mistaken belief that the key to control how we feel is by the power of our rational mind. However our mind-body link is much more complex than this. By gently guiding the client to bring sensations to awareness as they are sharing their thoughts and feelings, and working with them positively it is possible to create release from trauma which may have unconsciously been trapped for years. How this looks is like the client simply sitting in their chair, concentrating on the sensations in their body, and sharing with, being watched and guided by the therapist. The release of previously trapped feeling is experienced as a sense of gentle expansion, of awareness of the wider room and the world outside in central London or Market Harborough, and a shift to lightness of mood, pleasant humour and a sense of connection both inside the self, and to the therapist and others. There is a wealth of neurological research - polyvagal theory is one angle, Somatic Experiencing another - to explain and support why and how this works.
Working with dreams and images
Have a look at my Articles and Workshops page to read about the value of working with dreams. Their powerful images, feelings, and their freedom from the 'sense' imposed by your consious self offer a way to connect with yourself - that 'aha! awareness - that we simply can't gain by ourselves or with the aid of books. The purpose is not to impose a generalised meaning, but instead to find the meaning that is unique to the individual, through exploring by way of the dreamer's own associations. Often the deep meaning is accessed by making contact with with the essence of feeling in the dream. When a deeper level of connection with self is made, change happens.
I regularly run a series of experiential workshops for counsellors and therapists in Market Harborough and Little Venice, Central London, on Working with Dreams.
Endorsements: "Brilliant day, enjoyed it, left feeling uplifted, not overwhelmed. Pace of day was just right." "Really enjoyed the day and powerful learning", "Stimulating and valuable content, practical and helpful in my work", "Very useful content. Great to put into practise.
The next date will be Friday October 13th in Market Harborough.
Do enquire if you would like to know more. For counsellors and psychotherapists and those in training.
Getting to the Root of Anxiety, Depression and Unhappiness
Why do people go for counselling and psychotherapy? I was asked this question by a successful businesswoman and on the face of it you might think it was a bit naive given the range of human experiences of distress. I guessed that behind her question lay the opinion that she couldn't see herself ever turning to someone else for 'that kind of support'. She believed the answers were inside herself and that it didn't take someone else to find them. Its a familiar stance of successful men and women.
I answered with my usual reply, that sometimes people reach their limit. They come to a dead-end, or a brick wall and don't know how to get past it. This business mogul looked skeptical. So I dug deeper and found the following response.
Counselling and psychotherapy can help someone who finds that there is a difference between what they are experiencing, and their belief system, and this makes them feel threatened. The sense of threat may translate into behaviour driven by anxiety, defensiveness, or stress, or meaninglessness. Or they might just deeply know that they can't continue their present way of being. There's a snazzy term for this: 'cognitive dissonance'.
For example, someone might believe (whether they're fully conscious of it or not) that they are 'bad'. Yet when they find themselves being praised for some success, instead of feeling affirmed and good about life they are thrown into a sense of pointlessness and depression, or cynicism, or a sense of insecurity about the future. Your experience is directly what you feel - in sensation and emotion. It then gets filtered through your consciousness, processed by your cognitive functions and you respond accordingly. However your cognitive functions have been formed by all your accumulated conditioning, most deeply when you were young and influenced by the frustration and disappointment of basic needs for physical and emotional security. Neural pathways gradually become fixed in particular personal patterns of reaction and response. They will influence our sense of reality and who we are.
As a result of those basic frustrations, beliefs are formed which become mistaken for truths. They in turn become part of our conceptions that we have of ourselves, our personality. For an extreme example, an infant with a mother who consistently hurts them might form the belief that they themselves are intrinsically 'bad' because it is unbearable to believe that their primary care-giver on whom they depend for everything is not good. This becomes the template for the rest of their life. At a 'normal' and healthy level this dynamic is happening to us all in myriad ways. We all, for our most primitive survival, need to believe that our parents/primary care-givers are right and know best, especially when they get it wrong. A whole bundle of distorted beliefs about ourselves, and them, are the natural result.
My business friend might have formed the belief that she was self-sufficient because her care-givers couldn't be depended upon. But because it was worse to believe that they might not be worthy of the trust she placed in them, she takes it all the responsibility upon herself. She turns self-sufficiency into a virtue and feels critical of others who turn to others for support. This self sufficiency may well be a virtue unless she finds that she compulsively isolates herself from those she loves, despite her best intentions.
As life goes on we're presented with challenges to our mistaken beliefs. This might look like falling in love and then discovering our partner is not what we thought. It might look like constantly repeating a cycle of failures, or a sudden onset of depression or anxiety triggered by something apparently minor - or simply inexplicable. Until we adapt to reality by adjusting our mistaken beliefs we will be dissonant with the world we live in. The tragedy is that many people fail to adjust and in their unhappiness keep imposing their dissonance on those around them.
The challenge for the therapist is not to be drawn in to the client's subtle patterns of mistaken belief; And of course not to fall into imposing their own distorted patterns on the client. An attitude of 'presence' is called for - a balanced, open and receptive stance. When we are presented with ourselves in a neutral and compassionate perspective it becomes possible to recognise and understand what we have been unconscious of in ourselves.
How lucky we are when we find a counsellor or psychotherapist who can help us to disentangle ourselves from our misconceptions. We can loosen the neural pathways and patterns of thinking, reaction and response. The result is alliance between what is experienced and what is perceived and then what follows; being in harmony with the world around us. Who wouldn't want that?
See my Articles and Workshops page to read more of my articles.
My counselling and psychotherapy, supervision and EMDR are based in 9 Orme Court, Central London W2 and in Market Harborough in Leicestershire within easy reach of Leicester, Northampton, Peterborough, Kettering, Corby, Uppingham, Melton Mowbray, Oakham and Rutland. Also in Fulham at Thrive@SW6, 585A Fulham Broadway, SW6 5UA.
See also my listing on the Counselling Directory
BACP registered counsellor and psychotherapist – UKCP accredited